Psst...if you are looking to start a blog. You are in the right place. Welcome!
dcc2ccd9
Blogging Tips

5 Survival Tips for New Bloggers

gloryannaThe following post is a guest post from Gloryanna from Only A Season.  Scribbling down her journey through the seasons of momhood (and wifehood) is her attempt to live that truth. Gloryanna is a middle school teacher turned SAHM of her sweer little monster. Snippets of her ramblings can be found on, Twitter, Facebook or Instagram and onlyaseason.com where she hopes to encourage other moms wiith my faith. You just might laugh a little too. 

 Bloggers…has this ever happened to you?

Sigh. I look at my blog stats and only a handful of views for my new post. OK, put the phone down. Wait to check for like 15 minutes this time. Eeeek. I can’t. The adrenaline is irresistible. Oh boy, one more view than two minutes ago! Progress! Yessss!

You can’t be all things to everyone

I had no idea what I was getting myself into when I started my blog about sixish months ago. I remember thinking to myself “I just want to write“. This is my release and I need this. Then it morphed into “I just want to encourage others”. I want others to feel like they aren’t alone. Someone else has been there.

Then you start picking up steam and think you need to write about everything. You start thinking “I’m a genius. I need to let other people know about this awesome thing I have discovered.” Everyone needs to know that you can knit underwear in five minutes. Before you know it you feel like your blog is all over the place and last time you checked the stats on your phone, things felt pretty stagnant. All that work you’ve put in to try and be versatile, then trying to be coherent, then back to being versatile, then “OK, I’m going to keep a focused content on my blog this time”. You feel like no matter what you do, you come up empty handed with hardly any new followers to show for it. Why is it that us new bloggers get sucked into this? Whether you lose focus and keep trying to reinvent your blog or stay focused but feel like your progress is “meh,” many bloggers come to some sort of crossroads at some point.

I surveyed a group of new & veteran bloggers. I was interested to see how they got in the game and how they survive the journey. I gotta say, reading the responses were incredibly enlightening.  I noticed a similar trend of advice from veteran bloggers to new bloggers, but I also noticed a similar struggle amongst us newbies. It was like the new blogger was speaking their frustrations into the wind hoping for a change while the veteran bloggers were whispering back keys to stay the course. While I initially was going to make this article a little more about statistics, my muse sent me in another direction.

I needed to write about this. To write this for me. I wanted to write this for the new blogger. I wanted to write this to remind veteran bloggers. We bloggers must never forget these life blood tips from our very own. The ones who have been there. I pulled these from the mouths of the very ones who have traversed the line of success and a mess, but always pushing forward to better themselves as writers.

Write what you love.Write what you feel, not what you think others want to read.

I find this hard at times. I see other blogs thriving and easily get caught up in tweaking my blog to some similar version of someone else’s. I mean, if they have a gazillion likes then they must be dong something right! Right? Yes, and no. They are doing what’s right for them. Trying to do your content based on what you see out there working for someone else will most likely lead you down a path of writing destructiveness. Yes, cliche comment coming but just be yourself. Let your own personality come through and learn to harness your own creativity over whatever topic fits you. Come one people, there are a bazillion mom bloggers out there writing about their life as a mom and tons of them are successful. You know why? Because they write about what’s important to them.

Write because you want to, not to receive validation.

I keep going back to that image of my staying sucked to my phone checking stats. While I like to think I’m a little more lax about it, boy those first few months I couldn’t get enough of my stats reader. It would be arrogant and ignorant to say stats don’t matter at all as you write. Maybe for some, stats don’t carry much weight. For the rest of us, remember to walk the balance of learning from your readers but not being controlled by them. So you have a certain page that gets the most views? Great, keep developing that page IF you feel good about it. Don’t change everything you enjoy about your site just for that statistic. I have easily been sucked into the numbers game and finally decided to go with what I felt most confident with my writing. While I am learning to be patient as my readership grows, I am not defined by them. I should be defining my readers.

Connect. It is the life blood of bloggers.

It is easy to get isolated in the blogging world, so get yourself out there and join a blogging group or two. I did not realize how rad the blogging world can be until I started joining blogging groups. The more I started engaging in our own community, the better I started to feel. The more you give the more you receive. You can’t make it blogging very long by yourself. You need the help and advice of other bloggers. If you aren’t part of Naptime Nation Facebook group. Join. Trust me. It is a life saver and I have not found a woman in that group who tore another writer down for her success. Choose to encourage those around you who are success. It will make you a better writer in the long run. Stay out of the vortex that is jealousy. Lindsay from Pinch of Yum has some great tips about fightng jealousy and being supportive of our fellow bloggers.

Write. Write. Write. And BE PATIENT.

The more you write, the better you’ll be. Focus on producing quality content and the rest will fall into place. Be patient. Good things can come from being patient. Patient as your writing skills grow. Patient as you grow your number of followers. Patient as you wait to hear back from ScaryMommy to see if your piece gets published. Patience doesn’t mean sitting on your hands. Keep working your butt off to engage your readers to grow your readership, but as we all know, most empires take time to build. Build your blog by writing, writing and writing some more. Be patient as you continue to learn the process and learn from others. As one blogger said from our survey, “Don’t compare your beginning to someone else’s midpoint/end because at one point, they were right where you are now.” Nuff said.

I couldn’t write this list without adding the most popular, beefy tip from our fellow bloggers.

DON’T GIVE UP.

Don’t get discouraged by your stats. Learn from them, but don’t live or quit writing by them. Don’t rush. Blogging is a forever learning experience. Enjoy where you’re at. OK, begging for some sponsors with your media kit may not sound all that enjoyable, but remember why you started this in the first place. Keep that in the forefront as you move forward and remember what is important and obsess less about what isn’t. Capiche?

Chrystie is a mom of 3 kids and wife to one. She's sold 4 blogs in the last 10 years and now helps other women start their blogging empire. Her love for really bad reality TV is only trumped by her love for margaritas without salt. Her other addictions include spray painting everything gold and embarrassing her kids at the bus stop. #thatmom

This article has 31 comments

  1. Abbie

    I needed this today. Thanks Gloryanna and thank you Chrystie for posting!

  2. Jessica

    Yep, all of this. Amen!!!

  3. Aimee

    Gloryanna, I can’t tell you how much I needed to read this today. I’m only three months deep in my little blogging journey, but what a roller coaster of emotions, and yes, obsessive stat checking, it has been. Thank you for reminding me to write what I know, and thank you Chrystie for featuring this timely piece!

  4. Tineke

    Thanks for this, just what i needed as a newbie blogger :)!! Very recognisable checking the stats and patience not being my strongest point 😉

  5. Emily

    Thanks for sharing these great tips!!

    Along with not being all things to everyone, I would add that you cannot be all things in all areas of social media. I hear of so many new bloggers that get stressed out because they are trying to be everywhere. Especially as a new blogger that is too time-consuming and stressful! Just find a few areas to really focus on and rock them. :)

    • Gloryanna @onlyaseason

      YES YES YES!!! I am specifically trying to do this for the very reasons you mention. I was trying to do too much in all of and in the end, they were all suffering. Thanks for this reminder, Emily!

  6. Stacy

    Loved this! The being patient part is hard, but I think the hardest part about being a newbie is not knowing what will work for you. There is no one size fits all formula. I want to make sure each step I take is one in the right direction, and will bring growth, but there is no way to know if it’s the right step until you try and see, and that’s hard thing to just accept…Thanks for sharing!

    • Gloryanna @onlyaseason

      SO TRUE Stacy! It’s funny how taking that “risky” step is necessary to continue to discover yourself as a blogger. I am such a planner and organizer and “gotta-be-ready-for-anything” person that this can be the hardest thing as a writer.

  7. Liz

    I’m new as well, and trying to break my addiction to the blog stats page. It slowed for a while too, after I bought my domain name. That was tough. Absolutely yes to the blogging groups! I love Naptime Nation.

  8. Jill

    1I LOOVEEE Naptime Nation!!! I’m a new blogger- really love this advice. Thanks so much.

    • Gloryanna @onlyaseason

      Thanks, Jill! I love Naptime Nation too. I was telling my husband about guest posting on this site and he mentioned that we sounded like a cult. If he only knew…

  9. Deanndra Serrano

    I love this! So encouraging for a new blogger to know I’m not the only one struggling. thank you!

    • Gloryanna @onlyaseason

      Finding strength in know you’re not alone can only happen by connecting with others! I’m glad this encouraged you! I need to keep these up somewhere so I don’t forget on the low days!!

  10. Brandi

    Hey I recognize my quote! I’m so glad you wrote this. Helps remind me why I started!

  11. Christina Rambo

    I needed this today. Thank you. I totally agree with interacting with a community of bloggers. I didn’t for the longest time! It is so encouraging AND it’s just the best to know other people struggle with the sames things I do.

  12. Kari

    Great read! I especially find the “write what you love” and “be patient” to be absolutely true! Thank you!

  13. Alexis

    Amen to all of this. Especially the part about being yourself and writing what you feel. Any post I’m not inspired to write never ends up being inspiring to others. I also love the part about connection. Some of my greatest inspirations come from the women around me in my blogging tribe.

  14. suzanne

    I’ve been blogging for just under a year, and when I first started I was obsessed with my stats. Now, there are days I forget to check them! I agree with writing about what is in your heart. Authenticity goes a long way. Great post :)

    http://mykindofsweet.com/

  15. Jenny Hutzler

    Perfect timing for me on this! Thank you!

  16. ashley

    I’m not a new blogger by any means, but this is still SO helpful! Love these tips. So encouraging.

  17. Sheila

    Great tips! I just launched my blog and was feeling excited but overwhelmed. Naptime Nation has been a great resource so far!

  18. Morgan

    Great tips, ladies! It’s definitely tempting to write or post what you think people want to see; but the most successful posts I’ve made are the ones that I’m passionate about, written in any authentic voice. Thanks for the reminders! xx

    • Gloryanna @onlyaseason

      Morgan, it’s so easy to forget, isn’t it?!?! So much is going on the blogging world it can be wasy to lose sight of your passion! Glad you were reminded too!

  19. Lucy

    I love this post! I’m still new to this whole blogging thing (almost 4 months) and I can’t lie.. I’m one of those that obsess over the stats. This is such an eye opener and very encouraging. Thank you for this. I gotta sign up for the Living For Naptime group!

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *