After returning to work from maternity leave, I found the transition to working motherhood to be pretty overwhelming and ended up being diagnosed with severe postpartum depression. With the pressures of the 9 to 5 grind, the exhaustion from the lack of sleep, the craziness of school drop off and school pick up, the absolute need to be a perfect mother – guilt had sunken in. And it sunk really deep.
To add another dimension to this crazy mess, a blog is born. The initial and ongoing reactions from family and friends are mixed – ‘You did what!’ ‘Where do you find the time to work, be a mum AND have a blog?!’, ‘Are you insane?’ to ‘You are a sucker for punishment!!’, and it goes on and on.
Yes, I started a blog whilst working full time. Yes, I am insane, remember most mothers are, and can you really blame us! Most importantly there is time to work, be a mum and have a blog.
Through trial and error, accomplished moments of triumph and failures, with jumps for joy to frustrated tears, and of course copious amounts of coffee, I figured out how to juggling work life, family life whilst running a blog. Here are three tips for managing work life, blog life, and family life;
If you are a coffee lover, buy coffee in bulk.
Or even if you are a tea drinker – whatever keeps you awake and going throughout the day buy in bulk. Otherwise, if you run out of that caffeine goodness, you will drop to the floor and there will be no blog to write.
Coffee is my nectar of life, the one that keeps me charged throughout the day, even if I do look like an extra from Walking Dead. If only coffee came as an IV, my life would be complete! The days are long, the sleep is even shorter, so I know I have to keep on going if I need to get an article done or maintaining my blog site, so coffee is always by my side, and my cup is always full.
Prioritize your time wisely.
This is a hard one to master. It can be so easy to bring out the laptop, whilst your child is awake. And it is even easier to avoid writing articles, when there are long hours in the office, or even binge watching television shows on Netflix (me.almost.every.night) – this is probably why I hoard collaborations, have a long to-do list for the blog, and as a result my blog needs a bit more TLC. The best tactic I have found to stop straying from my blog and writing is keeping a pen and paper on me all the times to scribble my ideas and plan my articles. If you are old school like me, I still carry a diary around and I have everything planned carefully. Well… almost. It took me forever to write this article.
However, I only write when my son is asleep. But I do not write every night, as I need to spend time with my husband. As much as I would love my time to be consumed more to my blog, it is just not feasible. Remember to set aside a few hours for your blog, but never forget to relax, recharge and focus on the family.
When the going gets tough, do not be afraid to take a break.
Is there any way of seeking equilibrium of work life, blog life and family life? Probably not. One aspect will always outweigh more than the other. For me, it will always be work and my family. So there have been times I had to take a break from the blog. I actually took two months off my blog to focus on writing, focus on the family and focus on work. I got so much out of this break that it really worked in my favor. I was able to sit back and see clearer, have a better, more actionable plan into managing my manic schedule. In that break, I wrote up bulk articles, collaborated with other blogs and brands, which scheduled in nicely whilst I was focusing on my work and family. As a result, my blog boomed. The traffic quadrupled, a wave of new followers came onto my social media feeds. In the interim, it is easy to keep the momentum going on social media platforms with quotes, pictures, and articles that fit your niche. Remember, the Internet will always be there so do not feel guilty to take a break from the busy schedules to focus on the deadlines from work and quality time with the family.
My name is Yvette. I am the founder of She is Sacred. My site is a safe, & sacred space of storytelling, self-love & sisterhood. My writing is raw, honest, from the soul, stripped to the very essence experiences on mental health awareness, motherhood, & marriage. You can follow my journey via my website, Instagram and Facebook.