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The Simple Way I Handle Entrepreneurial Fear

A good friend once called me fearless, and I’m sure I laughed right out loud, right there in his face. Because, little did he know..I was full of fear. Sure he saw me as this newly divorced single mom of two, who just quit her high paying job to start a blog…but I saw myself as a scared, fragile little bird on the brink of a mental breakdown.

The truth is, I’m not alone and I’m not unique. Every single entrepreneur goes through moments of “Holy eff what am I doing?”, “Is this going to work?” and “Will I be able to provide for my family”. I love reading interviews with entrepreneurs who admit to having fear..not because I like to see people suffer, but because it comforts me to know that fear is an everyday part of being an entrepreneur..and you either need to learn to deal with it, or let it succumb you.

Fear makes the wolf bigger than it is - German Proverb Click To Tweet

And I’d be lying to say that I’ve mastered the art of fear and I walk around every day feeling confident in my decisions..because the truth is..as a mom & entrepreneur…those things continue to rattle me. I have moments where I’m all…“I got this” and I have moments where I’m curled up in a ball crying because I don’t know what my next step should be.

A few years back, I realized that something needed to change, because guess what..no one was coming to save me and I was going to have to work through my own shit on my own. Figure it out. No amount of margaritas was going to take the fear away. So then, I started this thing…that I call a fear journal.

Now before you laugh me off the face of the earth, hear me out. I realize how hokey it sounds. I know this because my husband rolls his eyes anytime I mention a fear journal, but the truth is..it works…it really does work.

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Here’s what worked for me:

1. Write down what you are fearful of, what is stopping you, your mental block.

2. Write down what will happen if that fear comes true. You’ll want to expand upon your fear here and describe exactly what you think will happen if your fear comes true.

3. Write down what you will do if that fear comes true. This one’s a big one. After I write down what I will do if my biggest fear happens..a little of the anxiety goes away..because now I’ve got a plan. So this step is crucial. After you’ve done this step…walk away from the fear journal until one of two things happen..your fear comes true..or it doesn’t.

4. Put a yes or no checkbox on your sheet and if that fear comes true..put a checkmark in it.

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You will realize my friend, just as I realized, that almost 100% of your fears never fucking happen. They just don’t. BUT, don’t take my word for it. Do this fear journal for a week and come back to me and let me know what percentage of what you were fearing actually happened?

It’s freeing once you realize that fear is holding you back. It’s robbing you for sleep, your focus, your time. Fuck fear. Punch it in the face. And go on and be the person you were destined to be. Mic drop 😉

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Chrystie is a mom of 3 kids and wife to one. She's sold 4 blogs in the last 10 years and now helps other women start their blogging empire. Her love for really bad reality TV is only trumped by her love for margaritas without salt. Her other addictions include spray painting everything gold and embarrassing her kids at the bus stop. #thatmom

This article has 23 comments

  1. Jessica

    Wow… this is amazing!!! I have a lot of anxiety in my life over little things.. and this process seems like something that would really help me. thank you for sharing this! Sometimes we just need that little bit of introspect to talk ourselves down off that ledge. 🙂

    • Chrystie

      Jessica you and me both sister! Hope you try this and it works for you 🙂

  2. Lindsay

    I absolutely LOVE this! I’m a natural-born worrier so anything to help ease my mind is welcome. :o)

  3. Valerie

    Thank you for sharing this at #100HappyDays! I’m doing a series on my blog now about facing fears. I appreciate this post because this is also one of my fears. I’m kind of scared to branch out and do sponsored posts or let hotels know I’m doing a review on my blog. I think I care too much what people think…and I’m afraid of offending someone. I’m working on this though and slowly learning to try new things. Thank you for sharing!

    • Chrystie

      Oh good! The mantra that ‘your best opportunities lie on the other side of fear’ is so true. good Luck 🙂

  4. Krista Williams

    Wow, I really needed your post today. Truly!

    I’ve had that fear today, I quit my job recently to pursue the blog and am just in the thick of working hard of things away from the corporate world. I need to do this practice today:

    Here’s what worked for me:

    1. Write down what you are fearful of, what is stopping you, your mental block.

    2. Write down what will happen if that fear comes true. You’ll want to expand upon your fear here and describe exactly what you think will happen if your fear comes true.

    3. Write down what you will do if that fear comes true. This one’s a big one. After I write down what I will do if my biggest fear happens..a little of the anxiety goes away..because now I’ve got a plan. So this step is crucial. After you’ve done this step…walk away from the fear journal until one of two things happen..your fear comes true..or it doesn’t.

    4. Put a yes or no checkbox on your sheet and if that fear comes true..put a checkmark in it.

    I’ve always thought, write down the worst that could happen…and your plan…which covers any anxiety there.

    Saving this! I love it – thank YOU!
    xo
    Krista
    http://www.hundredblog.com

  5. Shannon

    Oh I love this idea! I think writing can solve pretty much any problem you are having, but I love the idea of breaking it down like this. Definitely something I need to try because my fears can definitely take control at times.

    Shannon
    Clothes & Quotes

  6. Ratisha Goyal

    we all have the potential to grow and achieve the incredible heights, Just need to overcome the fear of being Great! thank you for sharing these amazing tips. 🙂

  7. Erin

    YES! I totally needed to read this – fear/hesitation/lack of confidence are all things that take up too much time! You are right “punch it in the face” and move forward!

  8. Christine

    This was awesome! Thank you so much for sharing this, I can really relate. I am going to try the fear journal. I think it could help me from not holding back and just going for it.

  9. Emily @ Recipes to Nourish

    Yes! Love this! “Punch it in the face.” I’ve had to do some of this too … the entrepreneurial fears and doubts. Thank you for sharing your tips and truths about this.

  10. Warren @ Blog to Taste

    Wow this came at such an interesting time. I was just having a conversation about fear and how to overcome it. Life is just funny like that I guess.
    I love the idea of writing it down and tracking what happens. It makes you think about your fear, and how you will adjust to it. Definitely a great post! Thanks for sharing!

    • Chrystie

      Exactly. Fear is a common occurrence in our entrepreneurial lives and it’s best to hit it head on.

  11. Frugal Mom of 8

    I totally agree. Great post!

  12. Danielle

    Wow, what a great post !!!!!!!! I’m so glad I clicked this . What a legit idea , it totally shines light on the fact that fears are mainly in our head and the thing we are scared of doesn’t normally occur. Such a powerful idea . I too am an entrepreneur , actually both my husband and I are, and that can be scary . I’m gonna apply this
    Danielle Greco | AccordingtoD.com

  13. Taylor Layne

    I love this idea! I can’t wait to try it out! Normally, I just brain dump all my fears, write action steps to make ensure they don’t come true 🙂

    Thanks for sharing! Have a beautiful + kind day!
    Taylor Layne

    • Chrystie

      The brain dump is not a bad idea either 🙂 Thanks for the comment Taylor! 🙂

  14. Vet Leow

    Keeping a fear journal is such a cool idea. I love what you said about punching fear in the face… we simply need to believe we can do it and just forge ahead… Thanks for sharing…

  15. Angie @ My So-Called Chaos

    Seriously, way to make fear your you -know-what!

  16. Chelsie

    Love this post so much! I actually just had a fearful meltdown today over my blog and my husband had to call me to talk me out of it! I know that if I keep working hard, my fears probably won’t be realized, but I need to be better at making sure they don’t control me!

  17. Francine from Callaloo Soup

    Thank you for this, it doesn’t sound hokey at all! Journaling is a great way to get thoughts out of your head. I’ll definitely be trying it.

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