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Just Say Yes – How to Completely Change your Life with just one Word

Have you ever stopped to think about your life? About the decisions that you made that lead to the person you are today? Did you ever think about how the seemingly insignificant decisions in your life can have a life altering impact? For those of you who met your spouse in a bar. What if you hadn’t gone out that night? What if you had looked in the mirror and said, Ugh..I’m too fat, I’m too ugly or I don’t have anything to wear..I can’t go out tonight. You would’ve missed your destiny.

Yesterday, Facebook reminded me of the status update you see said, “…is going to an audition”. Little did I know seven years ago that that audition would completely change my life. That audition landed me a job as a co-host on a local television show in Portland. On that television show some band named Pinsky would perform on our stage. I would hit it off with the singer. We started dating. We would go on to get married. Have a baby. Move to Austin, Texas. Life changing, I tell ya. All because I went to an audition on March 7, 2009. (Psst..want to see the exact moment we met? Check out this video at the 20:50 minute spot)


As I looked back on that Facebook memory, I thought to myself..what if I hadn’t auditioned? What if I had talked myself out of going that day? I didn’t have any experience being a TV co-host. I didn’t have any idea what I was getting in to. I was going through a divorce. There are a million reasons I could’ve talked myself out of auditioning that day…but I didn’t. I just said…”YES….I’m going to audition”. I’m going to put my most vulnerable self out there and try out for something I’ve never done before…but always wanted to do. And it worked out. As a matter of fact, it worked out in more ways than I could’ve ever imagined.

Now, I want you to  think back to all the times you’ve doubted yourself. All the times you’ve talked yourself out of going for your dreams, or going to a networking event or allowing yourself to be in a vulnerable situation. What would’ve come out of those events had you stepped outside your comfort zone? You’ll never know. They are missed opportunities. What I do know is that if I had not auditioned for that show, I wouldn’t have the life I lead now….and the life I lead now is pretty fucking awesome. I have this life..because I took a chance on myself. No..I probably wasn’t the most qualified or prepared, but I just said fuck it and went with it…and it worked out.

I’m challenging you to accept the next opportunity that comes your way. Say yes, when your entire body wants to say no. Take that step forward into the unknown, because the beauty of that is that you never know what will come out of it. Who you will meet. Where it will take you. I already told you about the 13 life changing events that happened to me after starting a blog..but this is bigger than that…I want you to take a chance on yourself in a big way.

What is something that you’ve always wanted to do? Go and do it. What is stopping you? Your best life lives on the other side of that fear. Before I auditioned for that TV show, I was going through a divorce, I was scared to death about how I was going to provide for my children and this co-host position was an unpaid gig. By all accounts, I shouldn’t have been thinking about doing a job for free….I should’ve been concentrating on paying jobs. But I stepped out in faith..I stepped out into the universe and said, “Why the fuck not me”….and friends, it has proven to be the best decision of my life.

So let me ask you this…why the fuck not you?

Say YES, when you want to say No

How many times have you declined an opportunity because of fear or feelings of inadequacy? How many times have you made excuses for why you can’t attend that conference or networking event? How many times have you not answered emails from people looking to collaborate with you because you didn’t think it was worth your time? You need to stop staying No and start saying Yes. Every single opportunity that comes your way could lead to a new path of greatness. To a new relationship. To a new life that you never expected. Remember, that Jim Carrey movie, YES Man? I want you to start doing that. Saying YES to opportunities that come  your way.

Seek out opportunities that scare you

Have you been thinking about reaching out to your favorite brand to do a review? Is there a blogger that you’d love to do a guest post for? Awesome! What are you waiting for? Send that email. Just go for it. What’s the worst that can happen? They say no? Then what? Then you try try try again! Did you know that Harry Potter was rejected by 12 publishing houses before it got a yes? 12!! What would’ve happened if J.K Rowling had given up? We would’ve never met Harry Potter…and that would’ve been a tragedy.

Be the cheerleader you need in your life

As moms & bloggers we can be our own worst enemy, I know this all to well. In seconds I can completely eviscerate myself worse than any enemies could..but that shit stops here. Instead of coming up with all of the reasons why it won’t work..think of all the reasons that it WILL work. Allow yourself to daydream about the possibility of being published, gaining fame & fortune or meeting your blogging idol…whatever your blogging goal is…revel in that. Believe it. Watch it come true.

Lastly, here are a few motivational goodies for you when you need a kick in the bootie:



Chrystie is a mom of 3 kids and wife to one. She's sold 4 blogs in the last 10 years and now helps other women start their blogging empire. Her love for really bad reality TV is only trumped by her love for margaritas without salt. Her other addictions include spray painting everything gold and embarrassing her kids at the bus stop. #thatmom

This article has 13 comments

  1. Jessica

    Ok, wow. I needed this!!! Not only have I almost emailed you no less than a dozen times to back out of the Podcast interview (I’m not big enough! I’m not successful enough! I’m not one of THOSE bloggers!) but I also have been holding back from submitting more work to be published because of being rejected once. I need this kick in the ass because I’m someone who shys away from something as soon as she gets burned and won’t try it again. Thank you for this!! and PS- so sad you aren’t in Portland, OR anymore!! If you were I could stalk you.. in the nicest, non-creepiest way possible. 🙂

    • Chrystie

      Haha. Jessica…I can’t wait to talk to you on the podcast! 🙂 Rejection sucks…and it can be a serious buzzkill..but the only difference between the people who make it and the ones who don’t is persistence 🙂 P.S. I lived in Portland, Maine…haha…the ‘other’ Portland 🙂

  2. Stacy

    Love this! I know I am my own worst enemy, always so nervous to share what I’m doing., afraid people won’t like it or think it’s silly. Which is silly of me, because I love what I’m doing. Thanks for your lovely words and inspiration!

    • Chrystie

      Stacy…as long as you love what you are doing…that’s really all that matters. I know it sounds cliche…but you WILL find people who align with you and they will inspire you to keep doing what you are doing 🙂

  3. Lindsay

    Chrystie, this is EXACTLY why I love you!! I needed this. You have no idea how I needed this! There are so many things that I really want to do right now but I’m just too scared to try because I’m scared of being rejected. So thank you, thank you for the inspiration!

    • Chrystie

      Quit it…just quit being scared! Act like you have nothing to lose…it’s a very freeing thought 🙂

  4. Spencer Burley

    This is great!! almost three years ago I was going through a divorce and moved back in with my parents. I was offered the opportunity to work with a temp agency in Scottsdale Arizona and was beyond scared. I knew no one here, I hadn’t done anything with any of my degrees and thanks to my ex had all my assets frozen. But I did it. I flew out four days after Christmas (I asked for a one way ticket and nothing else) crashed on the sofa of a high school classmate who I hadn’t seen in 5 years and wasn’t even that close to then ran into old college friends who convinced me to go to a New Years Eve concert where I met my soul mate and we are now expecting our first. It’s amazing what can happen if you just say yes and believe in yourself. Even if you’re just faking it at first. This is a great reminder for me since I’ve noticed myself starting to pull back and put my NO guard up. Thanks for the great read and reminder!

  5. Abbie

    LOVE this. Damn straight and I will be reading this when I need the reminder… so like every other day.

  6. Vivianna

    This ia so fitting for me right now. I’m finally turning a big curve & getting comfortable saying yes again. I’ll definitely come back to this one for some motivation!

  7. P.Jeanne

    GREAT post and it couldn’t have come at a better time!! My goal this year is to grow my blog and collaborate with other bloggers that I look up to…definitely need to push past the fear of rejection and start asking 😉 Thank you SO much for always posting such inspiring, real posts!! XOXO ~ P

  8. Kelly

    Love, love, love, love this post, Chrystie! Life is way too short to not go after things and say YES!! Thanks so much for this awesome kick in the ass for anyone who reads it! Love it! 🙂

  9. Jillian

    Such a good reminder! It’s so amazing to look back at things and now understand why something happened!

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