Have you ever stopped to think about your life? About the decisions that you made that lead to the person you are today? Did you ever think about how the seemingly insignificant decisions in your life can have a life altering impact? For those of you who met your spouse in a bar. What if you hadn’t gone out that night? What if you had looked in the mirror and said, Ugh..I’m too fat, I’m too ugly or I don’t have anything to wear..I can’t go out tonight. You would’ve missed your destiny.
Yesterday, Facebook reminded me of the status update you see below..it said, “…is going to an audition”. Little did I know seven years ago that that audition would completely change my life. That audition landed me a job as a co-host on a local television show in Portland. On that television show some band named Pinsky would perform on our stage. I would hit it off with the singer. We started dating. We would go on to get married. Have a baby. Move to Austin, Texas. Life changing, I tell ya. All because I went to an audition on March 7, 2009. (Psst..want to see the exact moment we met? Check out this video at the 20:50 minute spot)
As I looked back on that Facebook memory, I thought to myself..what if I hadn’t auditioned? What if I had talked myself out of going that day? I didn’t have any experience being a TV co-host. I didn’t have any idea what I was getting in to. I was going through a divorce. There are a million reasons I could’ve talked myself out of auditioning that day…but I didn’t. I just said…”YES….I’m going to audition”. I’m going to put my most vulnerable self out there and try out for something I’ve never done before…but always wanted to do. And it worked out. As a matter of fact, it worked out in more ways than I could’ve ever imagined.
Now, I want you to think back to all the times you’ve doubted yourself. All the times you’ve talked yourself out of going for your dreams, or going to a networking event or allowing yourself to be in a vulnerable situation. What would’ve come out of those events had you stepped outside your comfort zone? You’ll never know. They are missed opportunities. What I do know is that if I had not auditioned for that show, I wouldn’t have the life I lead now….and the life I lead now is pretty fucking awesome. I have this life..because I took a chance on myself. No..I probably wasn’t the most qualified or prepared, but I just said fuck it and went with it…and it worked out.
I’m challenging you to accept the next opportunity that comes your way. Say yes, when your entire body wants to say no. Take that step forward into the unknown, because the beauty of that is that you never know what will come out of it. Who you will meet. Where it will take you. I already told you about the 13 life changing events that happened to me after starting a blog..but this is bigger than that…I want you to take a chance on yourself in a big way.
What is something that you’ve always wanted to do? Go and do it. What is stopping you? Your best life lives on the other side of that fear. Before I auditioned for that TV show, I was going through a divorce, I was scared to death about how I was going to provide for my children and this co-host position was an unpaid gig. By all accounts, I shouldn’t have been thinking about doing a job for free….I should’ve been concentrating on paying jobs. But I stepped out in faith..I stepped out into the universe and said, “Why the fuck not me”….and friends, it has proven to be the best decision of my life.
So let me ask you this…why the fuck not you?
Say YES, when you want to say No
How many times have you declined an opportunity because of fear or feelings of inadequacy? How many times have you made excuses for why you can’t attend that conference or networking event? How many times have you not answered emails from people looking to collaborate with you because you didn’t think it was worth your time? You need to stop staying No and start saying Yes. Every single opportunity that comes your way could lead to a new path of greatness. To a new relationship. To a new life that you never expected. Remember, that Jim Carrey movie, YES Man? I want you to start doing that. Saying YES to opportunities that come your way.
Seek out opportunities that scare you
Have you been thinking about reaching out to your favorite brand to do a review? Is there a blogger that you’d love to do a guest post for? Awesome! What are you waiting for? Send that email. Just go for it. What’s the worst that can happen? They say no? Then what? Then you try try try again! Did you know that Harry Potter was rejected by 12 publishing houses before it got a yes? 12!! What would’ve happened if J.K Rowling had given up? We would’ve never met Harry Potter…and that would’ve been a tragedy.
Be the cheerleader you need in your life
As moms & bloggers we can be our own worst enemy, I know this all to well. In seconds I can completely eviscerate myself worse than any enemies could..but that shit stops here. Instead of coming up with all of the reasons why it won’t work..think of all the reasons that it WILL work. Allow yourself to daydream about the possibility of being published, gaining fame & fortune or meeting your blogging idol…whatever your blogging goal is…revel in that. Believe it. Watch it come true.
- Shia LaBoeuf “Just do it”
- My Whole Life is Great
- You are a Badass
- Inspirational Quotes on Pinterest
- And when all else fails, this music video gets me going (don’t judge me!)