Confession: I am guilty of living my life with a perpetual “go-go-go” attitude. I love to visit with people, build relationships, go on adventures and keep my mind and body busy. I make lunch or dinner plans at least 3 times a week, I plan mommy days twice a week and we very likely have a minimum of two people at our house every single day.
Until a few weeks ago, I had not stayed home on a weekend – without stepping foot outside of my house- in over two years. In the moment that I had realized that, I also acknowledged that I had been neglecting my own family because my schedule was utterly and completely packed. I understand that this way of life seems absolutely insane to those who love to be in their own space at home. But extroverts, and other stay-at-home-moms, likely understand the feeling of being ‘cooped up’ and wanting to go out and do something.
Yet, isn’t it true as introverts and extroverts alike, full-time working parents and homeschooling parents, students and bloggers – that we’re all guilty of finding ways (although unintentionally) to place less focus on the relationships that we should be building with our families?
Here’s the thing: I really do enjoy living my life like this. Despite the busyness, it’s not at all draining to me. I am okay being the person to take a coffee to a friend at work if they don’t have any other time during the week. I cherish my Friday 5:30 a.m. coffee dates. I love going to the gym with my best friend at 9:30 at night just to make sure I see her. A huge part of me knows that that is what healthy relationships look like, especially with busy schedules in the mix.
But there’s also a part of me that acknowledges that I am neglecting the relationships in my own home by keeping every day on my calendar filled up. On what I am now calling our ‘Home Staycation Weekend’, my husband and I both caught a little sickness. We ended up lounging out in our pajamas on both Saturday and Sunday. Initially, I started to feel stir-crazy, but by the end of the weekend, I realized that I was incredibly refreshed. My husband was so thrilled to have time to just rest and enjoy us. I felt guilty and asked his forgiveness for not caring more about his need to refresh at home.
As a family, we watched movies, made delicious junk food, played board games, had coffee in the backyard while our son ran around and we talked and talked and talked. It was beautiful! As little as I wanted to admit it, that weekend was really, really good for me. There are seasons in our lives when we just need to set aside hobbies, other relationships, and all technology in order to focus solely on the little family that we have been blessed with.
Here’s the thing, dear friends – no matter what we’re doing, whether we are spending hours on a new blog post or running around from store to store – we can always find a task that is seemingly “more important” than the time we need to be spending with our spouse or our kids. We have to stop believing that lie. Choose today to cross off a couple days a week without any daunting obligations. Learn how to say “no” and remember that you’re not required to be at every single event. If there are things to get done at home, find a way to make them fun and do them together. I promise that you will never look back wishing that you had not given your family the love, time and attention that they deserve.
The preceding article was a guest post by Lindsey from Sparrow & Lily.
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